If you are against the right for women to access abortion on demand, then you are not a feminist.

Sometimes I just want to throw my hands up in the air and accept that people are a bit crap really, and that is that. Nothing can change it. It’s people.

If your feminism is against the right for women to access abortion on demand, then you are not a feminist.

If your right forces women, shames them, traumatizes them so they are swayed one way or the other in which is an intensely personal choice, then you are not a feminist. You are not pro-woman, not pro-female rights: you are fighting for your agenda, whether that is fueled by religious fervor or a sense of superiority, if doesn’t matter.

I had an abortion because I became pregnant while addicted to heroin. My choices were scant. I was not provided with adequate, compassionate information. I was not treated humanely, and I was further traumatized by (Christian, mostly male) protestors claiming to care about a fetus that was not born, whilst no doubt wanting to hang me if they found out I was a heroin addict, and that baby would be born addicted. No, you cannot give up opiates while pregnant – you will miscarry.

My safety, like many women’s past and present, revolved around the ability to access swift and early abortion services. These anti-choice people won’t be there to pay for and raise a child to adulthood. They will not be there at the birth, nor at night when they are teething. They will not be there when they need medical care. They will not be there to house that child. Their interest is purely theological, for the most part.

The Supreme Court, packed by Trump with anti-choice Catholic individuals (deep breath, tps…no need to stoop to their level), is hearing a Mississippi case which challenges Roe vs Wade. American women need feminism to defend their right to a safe abortion.

Women will abort. They will abort in back alley clinics if they can’t secure safe and legal abortions. What about women’s health, and safety? What about the deaths and infertility that were caused by prohibition of abortion services? They do not care about the women.

They do not care about the women that are then tied to abusive men for the next twenty years by the child. They do not care about women’s mental or physical health, or the victims of rape, incest and abuse. They don’t even care about the child. It is all about pushing their religious agenda, which no body else is interested in. The damage done by these Christians is immense.

If you are a feminist you care about women. If you are a feminist you don’t seek to impose your will or your religious beliefs upon other women. If you are a feminist you do what is right for you, but you sure as heck defend your sister’s rights to do what she decides is right to her.

If I had had that baby it would have been a disaster. I would have found another way to abort. There would be no way on earth I would have considered adoption. What and be told how disgusting I was for bringing a child into this world that would suffer withdrawals at birth? As an adopted child myself to have a baby adopted was literally impossible. No birth control is 100% effective. Mistakes happen. You can’t legislate morality. You can’t insinuate yourself into women’s sex lives and choices.

Be anti choice – you have the right to free speech, just as real feminists have the right to defend women’s access to safe and speedy abortions, but don’t you DARE call yourselves feminists: you are anything but.

12 Comments

  1. The Paltry Sum

    When it is Christians who are overwhelmingly pushing for abortion rights to be limited or destroyed why should I forget Christianity? It does appear to be the main problem in defending the right to choose.

  2. ben Alexander

    Women will abort. They will abort in back alley clinics if they can’t secure safe and legal abortions. What about women’s health, and safety? What about the deaths and infertility that were caused by prohibition of abortion services? They do not care about the women.

    This is what makes the case for me. It seems to obvious.

      1. The Paltry Sum

        …And the unsaid spaces say it all, my friend…yes…they get very insistent about pushing their beliefs onto others, especially vulnerable others. Like the kids say nowadays “you do you, buddy”…

    1. The Paltry Sum

      I am so sad that you can relate, Nguyen. I tend towards wanting to build bridges in the hope that better services can be given to suffering women, rather than blind censure and the actual rage I do feel. No woman should have to listen to someone else’s anti abortion views in order to secure an abortion, nor a sermon, nor their agenda. It should be need based, and not an exercise in terrifying or shaming women. There are no bridges to build. You give these people an inch and they take a mile. It makes me furious. Just to say your writing is so powerful, I admire you greatly. Solidarity. 🌸🌺🌸

      1. Nguyễn Thị Phương Trâm

        We have a certain duty don’t we, and the world is better because of your willingness to fight. Breathe. Find your centre, fight another day. Ignorant people can’t be taught, we can but teach our youths. Take care my dear, and I am glad I’ve been able to share my thoughts with you, means a lot. Xx

      2. The Paltry Sum

        Dear Nguyen, we can only do our best to teach our young ones, and I know you are right there doing all you can. Your pain drips from your words like power. You take care too, sweetie, you are a very special person. I hope we can get to know each other better. Which name do you prefer to go by? You can call me TPS – sorry I have to remain anonymous. If I can ever be a listening ear, or someone who might help, please let me know. xx

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